Trust Your Body and Trust Yourself

As an expectant parent, it’s easy to feel that other people know more, are the experts, have more experience. “It’s our first baby, so we really don’t know anything” I often hear.  Yet, I would like to validate how much you really do know.

As a pregnant woman in your sixth month, you’ve already spent 3,552 waking and sleeping hours with your baby. You know the active moments; feel growth spurts and changes in position. As an adult, you have lived with yourself for decades already.  You know what things make you laugh or growl and you feel your body change with your baby.

How you feel, physically and emotionally, is valid information.  It’s important to trust what your body tells you. Here are some practical routines to develop your trust in your body.

1. Make space every day for at least 10 minutes to breathe deeply, stretch or just sit calmly.
Make this a habit, like brushing your teeth. Breathing deeply gets more oxygen to your brain and muscles. It calms your body and heart, clears your mind.

2. Review the gifts of your health.
When confronted with a health challenge or problem, first ask  “What is working here?”  That way you will be starting from a position of strength. That’s a calmer, clearer stance from which to move forward.

Because you’re the one going home with this baby and this experience, it’s important to trust what your body tells you.  This is a skill you’ll continue to develop as a parent.

Here are three good resources for evidence based, practical information:


The Birth Partner: A Complete Guide to Childbirth for Dads, Doulas and All Other Labor Companions
Penny Simkin

The Doula Guide: Secrets Every Pregnant Woman Should Know
Ananda Lowe and Rachel Zimmerman.

c. Robin Snyder-Drummond 2009